Thursday, May 23, 2013

Pointers to Keep Your Job when You're on the Firing Line

"Randi," an RN who loves her job as a nurse at a facility has a meeting tomro morning at 10 am with the higher-ups who want to "observe" her performance.

Why? They weren't happy with how she responded to one particular patient, though the patient is doing fine.

Here are some pointers I gave her, while taking my new clothes outa the washing machine and hanging them up to dry


- Talk to supportive friends to give you courage to face tomro's proceedings

- Have a plan & write down the pointers.

- Tell them how much you love your job and want to remain there.

- Do not bring up any of the charges they made against you.

- Respond to their charges by saying, "I love my job and am hoping you will help me if I encounter any problems."

- Bring in some quotes by some of your patients who think you're great.

- Go in with confidence. Say to yourself, "I'm going to charm and persuade these people so they want me to stay."

- Wear a 'power outfit' - subdued but comfy

I told Randi that I was a psychotherapist at Family Services of Bucks County. I was interviewed on WHYY-FM after receiving an award from the Montgomery County Office of Behavioral Health.

At Family Service, they heard the interview and the secret was out - I had bipolar d/o!

The most unforgiving places to work are mental health agencies, even tho both Randi and I know how compassionate and understanding we are for folks w/ a mental illness.

Family Service now observed me closely.

They treated me differently.

They had always disliked me - I was really creative with my clients and got many of them to make changes in their lives - but now they disliked me even more.

They saw to it that they never gave me any new cases.

The day I left was one of the happiest days in my life.

I'm still in touch with one of my clients - JP - who I sent a postcard to this morning. Another woman - WS - is a Facebook Friend.

Call me a Clothes Horse - Nothing better than a cup of decaf - My Green Bean Salad - My dad immortalized in prison - Poem "Why I Like Flowers"

Am sitting on my red living room couch finishing my Wawa decaf, the last of the $25 gift card from my friend Teresa Forstater.

It's a muggy 80 degrees and the sweat is pouring off my head.

Just remembered to turn on the fan which is right next to me.

Nancy and I drove to Princeton, NJ, yesterday, and poked our heads into the spectacular Princeton Public Library. They have all sorts of ways of making money including a cafe within the building and sale of used books temptingly displayed at the entrance.

When I talked to my mom this morning I told her Nancy and I ate at the same restaurant  - Mediterra - as when we had our Family Reunion there a few years ago.

RIP OFF  RIP OFF!

For $18, we had a Greek salad the size of the palm of your hand.

We left hungry. But found another restaurant where we split an order of Sweet potato fries.

One of Nancy's jobs is selling products at a health food store in Princeton, so she never gets to see the city and all its cute shops and restaurants.

This morning made a batch of Potato Salad sans Potatoes.

Mom said she now makes this, which made me feel good.

Steamed green beans
chopped fresh veggies - peppers, green scallions, garlic
juice of half lemon
2 chopped Vlasic dill pickles 
fresh mint from the garden
mayo, spicy mustard

Scrumptious!

Michael Pollan would love this. "Eat food. Mostly plants."

Then it was off to Impact Thrift in Hatboro to complete my spring wardrobe.

Goal:  Shorts.

When I walked in, I asked the lady behind the counter: "Do you have any sales today for old people?"

"It was yesterday," she said.


I like wild riots of color. Everything is in the washing machine now. I don't wanna smell like other people.

Brewed myself another cup of decaf. It's in my favorite cup - on top - a gift from Sue Abernethy many years ago when we lived in the apartments. Husband Lloyd is a college prof.

The things we remember about people!

Sent out postcards - 34 cent stamps please! - to the following: SLD, Freda, Bill Hess, Mom n Ellen, Ingrid, Ada, Lillian Moss, John Patrick, and will send out more the morrow.

Man, this coffee is delicious. Even on a hot day I like drinking hot coffee. Watch! They'll find health benefits in this.

Mom went to Judi Adler's dentist who essentially told her the same thing as Schneider. She probly needs root canal as she's got a bump on the roof of her mouf. For pain she takes Advil and is also taking ampcillin, I believe, Dr Saul Miller.

She's in good hands and will spend the rest of the day in bed.

I'm working on a poem about Garbage Night. Got outa bed last nite with lo blood sugar - 48 - gobbled up

dipped in peanut butter

I'd been reading 

and said to myself, "Porous Vision." In other words, it seemed as if there were holes in the pages, so I reluctantly got out of bed and went downstairs to eat.

Then I went into my Writing Room - the coolest room on the second floor - and wrote a surprisingly good first draft of my poem, to be presented on Saturday.

Vickey Justus (what's in a name!) was kind enough to email me photos of correspondence from my late father - Harold J Greenwold, dead at 59 of a brain tumor that meta'd from his lungs - which now resides in the Historical Room at London, OH, Correctional Institution.

London Correctional Institution

Wait till my mom sees this! My dad was an amazing man, one of the first in Cleveland to hire blacks for his distribution warehouse of Majestic Specialties, Inc. Beryl Pinckney, Page Sumpter, Jr, and Sam Jones when he moved to the NY office.
Click to enlarge photos.

Don't you luv these wooden file cabinets?

I told Vickey that many people with bipolar d/o end up in correctional facilities. We have a new member in our group. "Joe" is a retired Upper Moreland cop.

He sent me an email and said my name sounds familiar, he hopes he didn't arrest me.

I said, "No, Lt Robinson did," for my first mania. They drove me in the back of a cop car - with grates in the backseat and doors that couldn't open (like serial killer Ted Bundy) - for the worst experience of my life - locked up for 3 days at MCES, my only hospitalization.

Many of our members have gone to correctional facilities in Bucks and Montgomery counties. Why? Being psychotic and arguing with police officers - entering other people's homes - shoplifting (this was our wonderful "Sophia," a nurse, who finally got her license back)

My great poem "Why I Like Flowers" was just rejected from Poetic Diversity. For your reading pleasure, here it is:


WHY I LIKE FLOWERS

In a small room with
white walls
I sat bare-bottomed
sandaled feet removed from
the stirrups
and she told me my uterus
has grown smaller with age
‘shrunk’ was the word she used
invisible behind the summer shorts
I would put on

Sometimes they remove it when it gets old
like a tree taken down
Stay with me, I say,
Who else has been so patient
so steadfast
made just for me
swelling just so
when the babies bulged inside
the perfect incubator
so, it bled a drop of blood
or two
a protest, I suppose, a cry,
a tear of sorrow
for what once was.

Driving home with a Beethoven
Quartet making the spring air
even more beautiful
I wonder why people like flowers.
Are we a kind of flower?
To cup a flower in your hand
is to see a world without
perfidy, malignancy, cruelty
we see ourselves as once we were
the innocence and yearning
of the newborn.

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Washington DC Day Trip - Part One - Marjorie Merriweather Post: Hillwood Garden / Part Two - MLK Memorial

I took over 100 fotos on this trip from Cheltenham Adult Evening School. We left at 6:45 am and got home at 7:30 pm. Ada ran the ND meeting for me.

 The front of Marjorie Merriweather Post's mansion. She bought it when she was 70 yrs old. Her father, the head of Post Cereals in Battle Creek, MI, taught her to be the outstanding businesswoman she became. She took over the company at his death. She was all of 27 years old!
 Our bus was full but we broke into small groups. The docents, such as Mary Ann, were all volunteers and extremely knowledgeable.
 Everything is as it was in 1973 when Mrs Post died at age 86.
 Her ashes were put under this obelisk.
 
 Putting green. Bent grass. Can u see the fan on the right? In the humid weather of DC, it dries off the grass. Other putting greens also use fans.
 Hillwood, the name of Mrs Post's mansion and gardens, has a large cadre of volunteer gardeners. After all, there are 25 acres of different gardens. How can I choose my favorite? I did luv the Japanese Garden and told Mary Lou that in Phila's Fairmount Park there's the lovely Japanese Garden or Shofuso that we visited on Ada's Outing.
Altho we think of the Sphinx as male, the one in Egypt is actually a female, as is this one.
Look at those manicured shrubs!
Every detail is spectacular.
This was quite something. See how the pool water slips down into a crevice? Then it goes all the way down to the above pic with the manicured shrubs.
How'd you like to sleep in this darling dormer? Mrs Post's bedroom was up here so she could look upon the great view below.
Two views of glass-top table with painted wrought-iron porch furniture.
Below, Mrs Post was as famous a Washington hostess as Perle Mesta. She hosted many politicians and presidents on these very same blue plastic chairs.

Flower arrangement on front porch

Her Dacha. According to the Hillwood website, "Her northwest Washington, D.C. estate endowed the country with the most comprehensive collection of Russian imperial art outside of Russia."

Says Wiki - In 1935, Post married her third husband, Joseph E. Davies, a Washington lawyer. Before the couple divorced in 1955, they lived in the Soviet Union from 1937 to 1938, while he served as the second American ambassador to the Soviet Union, under Joseph Stalin. During this time, Davies and Post acquired many valuable Russian works of art from Soviet authorities.

The Dacha has a collection of 'wedding albums' from Katherine the Great.

Guards are carefully placed in all rooms to safeguard the billion-dollar collections. (Ruth 'Sotheby' Deming)

Dunno if the sundial works, but the sun was working overtime. We trooped around in 85-degree heat. My hair was soaking wet. But I love to sweat. My kidneys are working. When I was on Lithium, I barely perspired.


Here we have the Japanese Garden. See these stones? We walked across them.


Interesting type of ivy.


Detail on wooden fence in Jap. Garden.


Tiny stones between the slate pathway.

This is the only pic I took in the dacha.
The greenhouse, filled with orchids and other unusuals.
Rapunzel, let down your long hair.



Strikingly b'ful petunias.
Here's Shelby Yin who I met on our trip to the Cloisters. Jewish, she married a Japanese man and agreed to raise the kids Catholic. Melvin didn't come this time.
Lunch was beet borscht w sour cream, flaky salmon, and a creamy napolean. I only ate half b/c I didn't wanna get a complex.
Entrance to dacha. Dacha means 'second home' and rhymes with Gotcha!
Well, something certainly got this humongous tree. This was on the woodland trail, which led down some steep stone stairs. At the bottom was


Two main gates. This one was 'not for buses,' of which there were many.

Mrs Post drove a Cadillac, chauffeured of course. Her fourth husband talked her into buying her own airplane. And of course she had a yacht, called Sea Cloud. It's now owned by a cruise company. 

I liked these tall lamps.
Thanks to Essie, one of the volunteer gardeners, for helping me find the Japanese gardens for my second helping of them.


Inside the Mansion

The pink enamel case was a precursor of Faberge. Mrs Post had quite a collection of Faberge eggs and other creations including a belt buckle.

Big Faberge egg on bottom. On top is an unusual Fab. clock commissioned by some princess. Mrs Post bought second-hand much of her collection.
Everything is Russian in this particular room, including the cabinet below.

What books did she have in her library? "Pills to Purge Melancholy" and two volumes of the so-called first novel ever wrin "Pamela" in two volumes. Can you read the title on the red books?

Mrs Post was very health conscious. Instead of reporting to LA Fitness, she square-danced and walked. We walked into her closet and were told that she remained the same size her whole life.


Look at the detail on the wooden paneling next to the fireplace.
And this, ladies and gentleman, is the dining room tabletop.
Kitchen.

Telephones called the staff. There were things like doorbells in every room which called the servants.
Her home was built as both home and museum.
Hard to tell, but I'm standing over the railing looking down.
The railing is covered with a velvet-like material.

Oh, actually, this is me. The guard took it b/c we were trying to turn off my flash. It's very complicated.
A bedroom. She has many descendents including her dtr actress Dina Merrill, b. 1925, so she's 87, about the same age as when her mom died. Dina's late father is E F Hutton of the brokerage firm.
Portrait of Mrs Post and Dina, I think.
Fleurs adorned the baffroom. Every time I got in there I'd splash my face with cold water.
Exiting and driving to the MLK Memorial along Connecticut Ave.
Washington Monument is laced with scaffolding. The bldg took a hit in an earthquake two yrs ago.
Oops! A collision which is watched by everyone around....
including these cyclists.
I shocked myself. I got goose bumps as we approached the Martin Luther King memorial. The scale was perfect as MLK loomed over us. How he affects us is up to each individual.
It's made of pink marble from China.
Design was done by the Roma Corp.
Park ranger Tim Ollinger told us the history of the monument. A sculptor was needed. No question about it, only one man would do: Lei Yixin (born 1954) is a prominent Chinese sculptor.

Pink granite. I got off the bus with a young black woman who told me she was missing work to go on the trip. When she saw the monument, she ran up to it and put both her hands on it, a veritable hug.
Rangers' and other folks' shoes.


'You look like MLK" I said to Reginald White, who came with his wife and two daughters. Yes, he's been told that before.






Noisy helicopters constantly flew over the Potomac and the Ranger would stop talking. Someone suggested Obama might be in one of em. 'No,' he said. 'Obama's plane is huge.'

Iris for Civil Rights!
I never knew that MLK's real name was Michael King, Jr. Did you? Dead from an assassin's bullet at 39. The Ranger told us the fascinating and lil-known history of the bus boycott in Birmingham. I'm too exhausted to write about it, just as Rosa Parks was too exhausted to give up her seat for a white person. That was the law.
Mildred from my book club.
Here she is with friend Mary Ann. They both live in the Regency Towers.
Francis Scott Key Bridge on the way home.

Oh say can you see? Not much, it's pitchdark outside. And I'm going to bed.